After reading Pema’s work on the first commitment-committing to not cause harm-I tried to integrate her ideas into my parenting. The kids really get into battles in the car. I found myself spouting Pema’s ideas; after they belittled each other with name calling, I suggested we commit to not causing any harm. They seemed interested in the idea. Great ideas take time, of course, to take effect. I love her ideas percolating in my head, as I navigate the murky waters of parenting. I like that her book reminded me of such a basic and simple concept. And I plan to commit to bringing the language of the first commitment into my daily parenting challenges.